The ability
to move forward requires action!
I’ve come
to realize though, that taking action does not always move us forward in the
direction and time line that we set for ourselves. I was provided with two separate
lessons over the summer months. The first was with regards to completing my
practicum for college. The process was much more difficult than I had
anticipated, due to a number of factors not in my control. I persevered, found
a placement and learned much throughout the process.
The second
lesson was in regards to my kung fu training and a goal that I had set for
myself. I set a goal, made a plan and even made adjustments along the way as
needed. I took action and I worked hard towards that goal, but all that time
and effort did not bring about the desired results. I became frustrated and
disappointed in the process and in myself. The frustration and disappointment
became a mental barrier leading to inaction. Even though I was able to
understand the mental barriers causing the lack of continued action, I became stuck
and developed a poor attitude.
So, what
was the difference between both lessons? Why did I have success with one and
not the other?
The first lesson caused frustration and was
stressful, but it was also something that needed to be completed and therefore
had more urgency attached to it. Taking a week away from the situation to rest
and regroup during that time was also helpful. The need for perseverance created continued
action, which helped me to achieve my goal in the end. My goal of finding an
agency to complete my practicum was achieved even though the outcome and time
line was different than originally planned.
The second
lesson is still a work in progress. I have gained some perspective in regards
to my training and I know that everything happens as it is meant to be. One
thing I have learned is that sometimes moving forward is about recognizing
accomplishments in yourself even if they are not recognized or rewarded by
others. I also learned If there is
someone other than yourself involved in the outcome of your goal then that
person should be included to some extent when making your plan. I know that all
my extra effort and training has benefits even if my goal was not accomplished.
My attitude has improved somewhat, but I am still feeling a bit stuck and I am
resigned to just going with the flow. I’m not sure that is the best attitude to
have, but given my very busy schedule these days, my energy is being directed
elsewhere. So that is where I’m at right now.
Understanding
the hidden lessons along the way as well as hard work and patience are key to
moving forward. Forward momentum is not always clearly visible and mental
barriers can cause us to stop altogether. With this experience and knowledge, I
will strive to take action, so that I may continue to move in a forward
direction.
Michele
Ward
