Quality Over Quantity

Last year taught me many things: 

• It reiterated the value of regular blogging and how well it serves me. Knowing this is what kept me blogging and engaged even during times when I really wanted to skip a week. 
• I was also reminded over and over, the power of a single mindful moment. Peace, joy and bliss became more the norm.
• There were lessons in perspective, which helped me to look at things differently and subsequently understand control starts with me. I can’t always control situations around me or others, but I can control how I react or respond and that gives me back my power. 
• I discovered the best version of myself is about embracing who I am, here in this current moment in time. It’s not about being better or more. It’s about living life and embracing the moment. It’s learning from mistakes and moving forward or sitting still if that is all I'm able to do at the time. 
• And I learned through experience that developing compassion and understanding towards myself, helps me to further build compassion and empathy towards others, which also helps me to be less judgmental overall. 

When I think about everything I discovered and learned over the course of last year, what comes to mind is quality. This came about because as I was continuing to adapt to life, there was little time mentally or physically to spend on quantity. What's interesting is, even though I trained much less than planned, the training I did was intentional. Awareness increased and with that came important discoveries, which has been pivotal in my journey as a martial artist. 

Much of what I accomplished last year may not be considered by some to be Kung Fu related and yet the ripple effect has had a profound effect on my overall training and personal growth. For me it is that internal and spiritual component and growth that is at the heart of Kung Fu.

I know along with keeping quality in mind there is room for me to push myself and add in a bit more structure in order to continue with the lessons from last year. My goal moving forward this year is to apply the 10 minute rule to my training. 10 minutes per day for my weapon form and 10 minutes for my hand form. This could include running through the entire form, or focusing on a technique or a section. For both forms, it will also include learning and adding on new techniques. 

Quality over quantity is my focus. This will require discipline and intentional effort, building on both mindfulness and awareness. And I know there may be a few beginning stages where quantity is required to to get to a place where quality can then become the focus. 

Another Sign Post - Hips This Way...

The path I currently find myself on is directing my focus towards the hips. Hip Awareness, engagement timing and positioning are all getting some mindful attention as a result.

This journey all started with a basic slide step forward and punch. As soon as I add in a punch my timing is off. I'm launching the punch early which also affects trajectory and vectors. Because I’m already committed to the punch while in motion, my hip is moving forward as well, arriving to it's final destination slightly before it's needed. 

Because of this new focus, I've identified multiple areas in my forms where the hips could benefit from some awareness and adjustments.

Some observations are: I’m not engaging the hip at the right time (committing too soon), and there are times when I’m not releasing the hip as I transition. Intent is key as well as staying in the moment. This requires awareness and control. With improper hip function I'm most likely expending more energy than what is actually necessary. This may also cause a decrease in efficiency and speed.

I’m thinking the primary intent in any transition throughout a sequence needs to be a natural return to centre allowing for the hips to return to a more neutral position. And once I'm in a more neutral position both physically and mentally, I have more options open to me.

One Step at a Time

Black belt class, Tai Chi and Wednesday morning training sessions are challenging at times, fulfilling and help to keep me moving forward. When I’m on the mats, life happening outside of the kwoon is paused, and I can focus on Kung Fu and me. 

This past week’s Black belt class, Tai Chi and Wednesday morning training all provided great takeaways. It’s amazing how much one can learn from a single class or conversation. 

Quality time with friends or family and time on the mats is helping me to briefly escape from the melancholy and grief I’m feeling. So even though I’m finding it hard to hold on to the joyful and positive moments, I recognize they’re happening and am grateful.

Mental and physical health are of upmost importance right now so I will continue to take part in activities that I know help to support and ground me.

Back on the Team

As the year of the horse draws near, I can’t help thinking what my year is going to look like. There’s a part of me that is excited for everything the year will bring. There’s also a part of me that feels stuck and struggling mentally when I think about getting back in the groove. I’m worried about all the time and effort needed, the structure, and figuring out how to do justice to the opportunity I’ve signed up for.

This is not a year, where I see myself running out of the gate and racing ahead. My head is spinning, but there is some planning taking place so that is a positive. With 2 weeks to go a lot can change and I may be surprised how well things align and fall into place. 

Momentum will build as I find my rhythm.

Building Compassion in Times of Challenge

Focusing on the positive and appreciating all of the good choices I’ve made during these times of difficulty and challenge is a good start. I also need to be honest with myself and aware of areas I could’ve made better choices or pushed myself more. I can struggle at times finding the right balance between self care and mediocrity. 

I realized this week, less than ideal choices, and the lack of motivation or discipline are actually helping me to foster and further expand my capacity for empathy and compassion. This is because I have compassion for myself and I make myself a priority, allowing for patience and grace. And sometimes I can take that a bit too far and not always make the best or most productive choices, but all in all it’s a learning experience. Through all of this I am building awareness and learning as I go.

As compassion for myself grows, compassion for others grows as well, which I realized also helps me to be a less judgemental and a more empathetic and understanding human being. 

I love the insight and clarity that the process of blogging provides!

Life Goes On

Dad passed away early Sunday morning. It was a bit unexpected and yet not a complete surprise. After 3 weeks of slow decline with a few hopeful improvements here and there, he passed quietly in his sleep. Thankfully I made the choice to stop in Saturday night after the Blackbelt ceremony to see him for a quick visit, not knowing it would be the last time. I believe dad waited to let go, not wanting my brothers and I to have his passing as our last memory of him.

I wasn't sure I would blog this week. Reasons or excuses often factor into the choices we make. Some are even very valid given the situation. I guess what I try to do is ask myself what sacrifices make sense and hope I get it right.  I know not blogging won't serve me, so even when life is challenging I try to push myself and write some sort of blog. In other areas I often shut down, but the blogging remains a priority.

I can grieve, take care of dad's arrangements, and give myself space as needed. The grief at this point seems to come in gentle waves so I do what I can in between. And right now that means get a blog done. Death is inevitable and life goes on. 

I Get To...!

This past week has been all about having a one day at a time or one positive choice at time approach. Success is measured in each healthy meal I eat, every glass of water I drink. a mindful moment, practicing gratitude, a walk with the dog, a tai chi class attended in person and the occasional counter push up. Every positive aspect of my life helps me to manage the emotional stress I find myself currently navigating. 

Dad has now been in hospital for 2 weeks. A fall at home brought him to the hospital, thankfully with no serious injuries, but it was discovered he had moderate hypothermia. His dementia always adds another layer of challenges when it comes to testing and treatments anytime he is in hospital. He can become agitated and more confused. At the beginning of week 2 it was ascertained he most likely had a seizure even though he takes medication for them. They are difficult to discern because outward signs of his seizures are almost non existent and after effects mimic dementia symptoms. After increasing his medication dad has fallen into an almost coma like state. Difficult to know if this is the result of a prolonged seizure, the higher dose of medication or a combination of both.

In addition to being at the hospital daily to support my dad, I'm also having to try to educate myself so I can help make decisions that I don't feel qualified to make. Making decisions that greatly impact another persons life or quality of life weighs on me. 

So I continue to practice gratitude and remind myself over and over again - "I get to..." I get to be here for my dad, I get to be here for myself, I get to experience life! And I trust I'll know when the time is right to let him go and pass peacefully.