The Ability to Move Forward

The ability to move forward requires action!

I’ve come to realize though, that taking action does not always move us forward in the direction and time line that we set for ourselves. I was provided with two separate lessons over the summer months. The first was with regards to completing my practicum for college. The process was much more difficult than I had anticipated, due to a number of factors not in my control. I persevered, found a placement and learned much throughout the process.

The second lesson was in regards to my kung fu training and a goal that I had set for myself. I set a goal, made a plan and even made adjustments along the way as needed. I took action and I worked hard towards that goal, but all that time and effort did not bring about the desired results. I became frustrated and disappointed in the process and in myself. The frustration and disappointment became a mental barrier leading to inaction. Even though I was able to understand the mental barriers causing the lack of continued action, I became stuck and developed a poor attitude.

So, what was the difference between both lessons? Why did I have success with one and not the other?

 The first lesson caused frustration and was stressful, but it was also something that needed to be completed and therefore had more urgency attached to it. Taking a week away from the situation to rest and regroup during that time was also helpful.  The need for perseverance created continued action, which helped me to achieve my goal in the end. My goal of finding an agency to complete my practicum was achieved even though the outcome and time line was different than originally planned.

The second lesson is still a work in progress. I have gained some perspective in regards to my training and I know that everything happens as it is meant to be. One thing I have learned is that sometimes moving forward is about recognizing accomplishments in yourself even if they are not recognized or rewarded by others.  I also learned If there is someone other than yourself involved in the outcome of your goal then that person should be included to some extent when making your plan. I know that all my extra effort and training has benefits even if my goal was not accomplished. My attitude has improved somewhat, but I am still feeling a bit stuck and I am resigned to just going with the flow. I’m not sure that is the best attitude to have, but given my very busy schedule these days, my energy is being directed elsewhere. So that is where I’m at right now.  

Understanding the hidden lessons along the way as well as hard work and patience are key to moving forward. Forward momentum is not always clearly visible and mental barriers can cause us to stop altogether. With this experience and knowledge, I will strive to take action, so that I may continue to move in a forward direction.  

Michele Ward