Change is in the air. It's everywhere in some form or other.
Change has become a big aspect of my life lately. It has and is playing a huge role in my personal life, various aspects of work, family and kung fu. I feel as if I've been bombarded with changes this year. A constant barrage of stuff to deal with. The work changes are the most challenging for me. And even worse I know I've been here many times before. Just stop already! Ugh...!
When it comes to my personal life, I find it a bit easier to adapt to change. Most likely this is because I am my own boss and therefore feel I have more control, especially when the change is a personal choice or created by me. Even with outside factors at play there is a measure of control in how I respond or react and how I take care of myself all within a safe space.
When it comes to change in and around the workplace, it can feel like things are unsettled. And when I think on this, I feel there is a component of vulnerability and sometimes even a fear of the unknown depending on the circumstances. This can create a feeling of lack of control, which I can see now has caused me in the past to resist. Being in a place of resisting and reacting makes it much more difficult to respond in a healthy way and find ways to adapt.
What's made a difference this time around was my awareness of this as a repetitive lesson and having dealt with similar issues and feelings. It started with the awareness and then continued to build with some reflection. At first there was a bit of initial frustration having to deal with a repetitive life lesson specifically around work changes and then as I sat and considered the situation I was able to come up with a course of action. I was able to focus on responding versus reacting, which helped me to take back some control. It isn't about having control over the situation or others, rather it has been about finding my voice and speaking up in a calm and measured manner. I'm still learning that in order to set some boundaries, I first have to be clear about what those boundaries are.
We all have life lessons that seem to be on repeat. Learning, personal growth and getting stuck more often than not are all part of our human experience. It's those repeat lessons that can be the most frustrating and also provide a huge positive impact in our lives when we put in effort and do the necessary work.
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